The Fear of Change? What About the Fear of NOT Changing?
In creating my latest e-course: Easy Steps to Make Changes in Your Life, I tested out several names for it. I wanted a title that drew people in. When I finally decided on this one, I had a student remind me that the word "change" itself is scary for people and would probably scare people away. Yep, I thought, it is. And I also realized it was high time I changed a few attitudes about change.
Scared of change? We all are. That unknown gets the heart pumping, doesn't it? But not changing can be even scarier. (What if YOUR life was exactly as it is now five years from today?) I think we've all experienced a time when change was imminent, and we ignored it, only to find it was forced upon us eventually in a much more uncomfortable way.
When we are afraid of change, we are like this photo, we have our fingers crossed as if we are hoping things will work out, that we won't have to do anything conscious, it will just happen.
Change as Growth
But, instead, we need to look at change as a growth process, as something to look forward to, to cherish, to move boldly into. The fear you might feel? What if it was excitement?
When I work with my coaching clients (um...and myself, truth be told) and I (ahem, they) feel fear with an upcoming action step they must make, I remind them that as uncomfortable and awkward as the step may feel, NOT changing, staying the same, is way more uncomfortable. Put your eyes on what you want, your vision, how you want to feel, and then feel the excitement of the action step.
A Little Inspiration for You
I want to share with you one of my favorite inspirational videos. While I realize change can be scary, there comes a time when our "good enough" isn't "good enough" anymore and we have to leap past our fears with courage and boldness to live the life we want and deserve. Watch the video, let it inspire you, and then take your next step -- Join me for the course!
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Let's do it! Let the #Change process begin!
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Pick a little change to test the waters.
OR go for it.
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Here's what we'll do:
I will send you daily emails for 14 days, beginning September 5.
Five of those 14 emails will, of course, be the five steps I will share with you.
The other 9 will be inspirations and suggestions to make this process easier. The emails will be a mix of video, podcasts (gifts to you!), written posts, and will include workbook pages.
This process works whenever there is a change you want to make, no matter what it is!
And, no, I don't expect the change to be made in 14 days! (Although, it could...) I DO expect (and you should, too!) that you will be well on your way to making it permanent AND you have in your tool kit 5 steps that work every time you want to make a change in your life.
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How to Create a Vision Board e-book by Lora Sassiela
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Be sure to "Like" my page on Facebook. We will use that space to publically declare what we are doing and to inspire and support each other. (That's what makes it a tribal event!) Let's leverage the power of the pack!
Invite Friends! Seriously, y'all, the more the merrier. You should see what I have planned! The more I inspire you, the more inspired I become in my own life. That is how it works. Here are some ways to spread the news:
Invite your besties and create your own tribe.
What about your co-workers? Any changes you hear them talking about that never happen? Want to have something fun and positive to do with them?
Missed me? I have been busy with quite a few new projects this summer, including my vacation to the Boundary Waters in northern Minnesota, and I have left my blog bereft. What is interesting is why...
I find my website gets neglected whenever I make a major shift in consciousness and the old site represents where I was. I simply do not want to go out there and spend time. This spring saw a major shift for me. It all began back in February when I let it all out and let myself be truly real in a blog post. That post has been the highest hit post of all time for my blog. Apparently the ideas hit a cord for people besides me. (I still turn to it periodically and get a burst of inspiration from it.)
And I began truly craving simplicity. Everything around me felt like clutter. I wanted to get rid of all of my clothes, my furniture, my files (oh, God, I wanted to dump the paper!), everything. I embarqued on a 30DayDeclutter campaign (which turned into 60 days and continues today!) It was because everything around me represented the old consciousness, the one that was stuck behind the program I hadn't released. My clutter was NOT about the stuff.
I then realized the Yoga Teacher Training program I had been cultivating for 20 years was part of that clutter, at least administering it was. And I retired. Yep, retired from teacher training.
You know what happened? I went from a place of needing to please others, to pleasing myself. I read a quote from Bob Proctor back in January that has changed my manifesting:
"Most people are not going after what they want. Even some of the most serious goal seekers and goal setters, they're going after what they think they can get."
I realized I was going after what I felt I should be doing, not what I really want.
So, What Do I Want?
I want to be a writer. I know, you are thinking "You have already published three books and written over 2,000 posts, you are a writer!" But I haven't thought of myself that way. My writing happens in the cracks of my day, it isn't prioritized. But I want to prioritize it. I am ready for it to be part of my identity. My next book is incredibly inspiring. My heart palpates at the thought of writing it. I am ready. And you know what? I AM A WRITER!!
(By the way, I took this photo on the night I began my book in June. Keeping it as an inspiration as I continue.)
I also want to work with my husband. My husband is my best friend, my soul mate, and number one
cheer leader. He is also an amazing teacher as a Tai Chi master. Wondering why we haven't work together before? Frankly, me too! Together we created a workshop called Chi Kung Energy Flow for Yoga™. It is such a powerful workshop and we have so much fun doing it together! We taught it last weekend at a Yoga Festival and received what I considered to be the best compliment ever: "You guys are so much fun to learn from because you have fun together and it is catchy!"
I want to travel...travel...travel. One of my favorite things in the world is leading retreats. I LOVE taking people to beautiful places and expanding their minds. I love to travel to other studios and teach. I love meeting new people and being introduced to new cultures.
I also want to travel with my family. I want to go places for months at a time, immersing ourselves in the culture, the people, the food. My job needs to allow my the ability to do so.
Finally, I want to coach. I have been so inspired by some new clients coming my way and, frankly,
wowed by what comes out of my mouth (thank you, Spirit!) And I want more of it. I want to truly inspire people to go for it. To live up to their potential and amaze themselves and the world.
I Hope This Inspires YOU
Soooo, why am I telling you this? Partially for me. I want to publically declare what it is that I want, send it out to the Universe in a very powerful way. Partially to inspire you all to reach for what you really want, not for what you feel you should do or for what you believe is actually possible.
AND to let you know an AMAZING website is coming your way! I can hardly wait to release it. To share it with you. It is coming September 1...Website gods willing... :-) It totally represents ME and I will reflect that in its domain: LauraErdmanLuntz.com. Yep, me. I am branding me. Me. Me. Me. I am ready and I am so excited! Stay tuned...
I am adding three coaching spots to begin NEXT WEEK for three, and only three, clients who are ready to move in their life! I am looking for something in particular in these clients. Let me know if you fit these criteria!:
You feel truly stuck in some area of your life.
You feel you have tried it all and you are ready and willing to experiment and play in order to get your life to change.
You have a feeling (or even a very clear vision) of what you want to have.
Join me for my latest venture -- an online studio!
Even better -- join me THIS week for the Launch Week Special!
Launch Week Special:
One FREE Class and access to the video library for a whole month!
Did you know my husband is a Tai Chi Master? He has been sharing his art for over three decades to thousands of students -- and we have never worked together! We are so excited to announce the start of our online studio at PowHow.com. Join us for a huge video library (that we are adding to regularly!) and periodic LIVE classes with both of us, including our brand new release: Chi Kung Energy Flow for Yoga™.
Be sure to check out the Video Library while you are there. We are adding to it each week! (Find the library by clicking “Videos” on the menu bar under the header.) Here are just a few of the videos you will find:
Laura’s 30-video Complete Beginner Yoga Series
AM & PM yoga classes
Chi Kung Energy Flow for Yoga™ with Laura & Ron
Tai Chi with Ron
Plus, a bevy of yoga vignettes on individual yoga poses
Be sure to “Follow” us while you are there so we know you have stopped by!
From there, be sure to click on the “Follow” link and check out the “Video” link for all that you have available to you.
Ron Erdman-Luntz is an award-winning Tai Chi artist, with over 35 years of teaching experience. His patient and calm teaching technique has inspired thousands of students. His skill has won him 36 awards and his expertise has been sought out to judge and consult at tournaments. One of his special skills lies in helping people truly feel and experience their chi, making his Chi Kung Energy Flow for Yoga class truly unique.
Laura Erdman-Luntz is an experienced Yoga Educator, inspiring Life Coach, speaker and author. She has over 25 years experience in the fitness & wellness industries, uniquely blending her Life Coaching knowledge and vast experience with Yoga to create programs, classes and workshops that truly bring mind and body together for positive change, inspiring people to live their most authentic life. Laura began life coaching and teaching yoga in 1992. She has her master's degree in Exercise Physiology and has earned the highest level of accreditation with the Yoga Alliance, the national Yoga registry board.
Together, Ron and Laura created Tai Chi Energy Flow for Yoga™, a unique program to guide students into feeling their energy in theyoga poses.
Please forgive my lack of posting as of late. I was on a glorious vacation with my family (photos to come) and I am opening an online studio on Monday! Been a bit busy to say the least. I am also working on creating a new website to be released September 1. Phew! Can't wait to share it with you. For now, here is a lovely video from Margaret Lynch for you:
So love this lady. Enjoying her 7 Levels program right now. She is fabulous. Enjoy this tapping series with her -- it is powerful!
Warning: About to get on my soap box around the concept of "failure" again. I have experienced a few traditionally translated "failures" over the past few months so I have been considering this topic quite deeply lately.
Is this failure?
I was recently watching Bob Mankoff's Ted.com talk, Anatomy of a New Yorker Cartoon. (Aside: It is very funny. Worth the click and watch!) Bob is the New Yorker magazine's esteemed cartoon editor and has been since 1980. Between the years 1974 and 1977, he submitted 2,000 cartoons to the New Yorker and was rejected every time. Every time. Not one in three or even one in 12, but 2,000 times. Think about that a moment. Seriously. How many times would you submit before you threw in the towel? Honestly, I am thinking 10 tops. This guy stuck to it and three years later he became the editor and has been the editor now for over 30 years. Awesome!
Is this failure?
Thomas Edison (and his staff, I will add) supposedly took two years and used up over 6,000 filaments in experimenting with perfecting the lightbulb.
A reporter came asked Edison, "How many times are you going to fail at creating the light bulb?" Mr. Edison replied, "Son, I haven't failed! I've simply discovered another way not to invent the light bulb!"
Again, I ask you, how many times would you have attempted it before giving up? 100 seems like alot, but 6,000?
Is this failure?
Jack Canfield and Victor Hansen, creators of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series, were turned down by 162 publishers even with an affidavit signed by 20,000 people who promised to buy the book once it was published! When the book was finally published, it went on to become the best selling series of all time AND the first book to sell a million copies in one day. Is this failure?
Is this failure?
In the 2000 presidential elections, George W. Bush was elected as president despite receiving fewer popular votes than Al Gore, the runner-up. He didn't even have the majority of the American citizens behind him, but he was still our president. He had to get up every day and do his work, knowing that not even the majority wanted him to be doing what he was doing.
Really, all presidents have at some point during their presidency, found their opinion poles not thrilled with them. They face criticism and very strong opinions. Yet, they keep going. They keep doing what they need to do.
You know what I see in all of these examples? People who believe so deeply in themselves and what they are doing that they only see their "failure" as learning what doesn't work. If you think you have failed, you do not believe in yourself enough. Our job is to build our personal strength to be so strong, nothing will shake it. It doesn't matter what others say or think, we know what we are doing is the right thing for us.
Is there a situation from your past that felt like a failure? Is there something going on in your life right now that is hard? Do you feel like you are failing? What can you do to redress them? Can they be lessons learned? A way to strengthen your resolve?
So, in case you are thinking of giving up, which to me is the greatest of failures, let me leave you with two brilliant thoughts from one who knows, Thomas Edison:
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is to try just one more time."
"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up."
I bet there is something you want to do differently in your life. Some habit you want to release or engage, an action you want (or perhaps need) to take. Sometimes you do it, other days you don't. You needn't wait untl Monday, or January 1st, or even tomorrow. Each day, each moment, is an opportunity to make the choice you know you want to make. Start again...now.
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