(Find Part I here.)
The responsibility is saying that nothing happens in our life without
our creating it so I must have created this one. So why would we ever
create icky situations? First of all, know that you are not doing it
consciously. These messages are being sent out unconsciously, just as
your message others are responding to is also unconscious. Let me give
you an example. I had a client who wanted a new job. She received an
offer quickly from a job she thought was her dream. The offer they came
back to her with was so low she felt like it was a kick in her stomach.
She thought they weren’t appreciating her and didn’t understand what
she needed. I then proceeded to add more to her angst when I said, “So,
you attracted this offer. How much do you feel you are worth?” She was
initially quite taken aback by the question until she realized that she
didn’t feel she was worth much. In fact, she took her special skill set
quite for granted. She was a quick learner and changed her attitude in
that moment. She received another job offer within two weeks for twice
the salary she had been offered in the previous position.
Now,
the people involved in setting her offer in the original proposal
weren’t sitting around thinking, “What can we do to irritate her? What
can we do to squash her self-esteem? How can we take advantage of this
situation?” Of course not! They were, though, responding unconsciously
to the vibration she was sending out unconsciously.
Okay, so
the first step in understanding your responsibility in creating “icky”
situations is to realize that you did it unconsciously. Step two is to
find the lesson for ourselves. Realize that these situations are here
to help us refine the message we are sending out into the world. You
are striving to be a better human being with a better life – to be more
loving, peaceful, calm, kind, whatever you want for yourself, or to
have a partner, great job, better health – that is why you are
interested in manifesting in the first place. Negative situations are
here to help us learn where we are not sending out an ideal message. My
client has refined her self-worth. She actually commented later that
shifted her “value” monetarily helped her find other areas in her life
she had limited herself.
There is one final benefit to taking
responsibility – you can stop the “lessons”. What challenging situation
have you had to relive over and over again? My client realized there
had been many situations in her life in which she felt others
undervalued her. She was being given the opportunity, again and again,
to learn that it wasn’t their issue, it was hers. The lessons just
became louder and louder until it was the proverbial kick in the
stomach she needed to see what she was doing to herself. I often hear
people say they attract the same “bad” mate or the same “bad” job. It
is the message they send out that brings them the same situations over
and over and they will continue to suffer until they change their
message.
Remember, it is all good! The things you would define as “bad” or “challenging” are just there to help you make things better. They are gifts of learning and as such are an incredible blessing. Each “icky” situation is a call to refine your message and to make things better and better in your life. Go ahead, take responsibility. See it from the rooftop, be grateful for the opportunity to refine the message you are sending out.
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